The Lonely Blogger

The Lonely Blogger

This little post is going to be all about the ‘blogging community’. Before you roll your eyes and think ‘great, another post asking why we can’t all just be friends and eat rainbows’ or whatever the usual vibe is, this post might be a little different.

I’m not really one for twitter. I find it a bit of a pain, and its far too easy to get lost down that rabbit hole. Like, I’d much rather refresh instagram for an hour than open twitter once. Sure, I’ll give it a scroll every now and then, and sometimes tweet something basic, but on the whole its just not for me.

And I think part of the reason for that is that I don’t really have that many *blogger friends*. I don’t have a blogger gal pal that takes all my shots for me, I don’t go for blogger gal work dates and I very rarely have anything to say to anyone else, even in real life, other than how tired and stressed I am. I prefer to keep myself to myself and am more than happy to not speak to anyone for a few days at a time than be too pally with someone I don’t know.

The Lonely Blogger

I’ve noticed the *blogger friendship* become more of a thing lately. More people sharing their pals’ instagrams on their stories, or meeting for coffees and just hanging out. It’s all very supportive and lovely, and I can’t help but feel that I may be a lot further ahead in the blogging game if I’d managed to find myself a gal group earlier on.

That’s not to say, by the way, that I don’t have blogging friends. I have a few, and they’re great. And they’re the kind of people that I like to think I’d be friends with regardless of if we had or didn’t have blogs in common. They’re cool, and I don’t see them, or even talk to them, very often. But it’s all cool because we’ve all got our own lives.

But am I missing out because I’m not that little bit more sociable? If I was on twitter all the time, messaging people and replying to their rhetorical tweets? If I’d put myself out there a little bit more, and was perhaps a little less me, would I have made more of a space for myself online? 

I’ll be honest, I don’t really know. It’s something I’ve thought about a lot in recent weeks/months. And maybe there’s something about being really busy at the moment that means I need to talk to strangers less.

– the stranger thing doesn’t bother me at all, it’s more that I’m less willing to be too pally with people that I literally do not know –

I’d like a few more blogger friends, or more friends that are bloggers. I’d like to meet up with a few more people when I’m home in London, and specifically people who side-eye a little less if my blog comes up. Not that my non-blog friends do that, by the way. I’d just like to feel a little more comfortable being able to bring my blog up in conversation. I’d like to go for coffee with someone, other than Ollie, and not be laughed at if I want to insta my slice of cake.

And I’d like more people that I could discuss blog things with: PR stuff and SEO stuff and instagram stuff, and all the stuff. If I have questions and concerns and want to ask for advice, I’d like someone to go to that I see regularly and trust.

Then again, this post isn’t a call for that, don’t worry. I’d feel really uncomfortable if I got a load of messages from people I’d never met telling me they’ll be my friend, as lovely as the sentiment is.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being a lone-wolf in the blogging world. A number of the big bloggers that I follow seem to be a little lone-wolfy when it comes to blogger friends and they seem okay. Maybe my FOMO is on red alert at the moment, as I face finishing my MA kinda soon and moving back to London. Who knows? I certainly don’t.

I would, however, be interested to know your thoughts on this… obviously engagement is key, but can you make it as a blogger, or online, if you’re a little less willing to make friends? Do we need blogger friends? Am I losing out by being on the outside the of the community? x

The Lonely Blogger


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