Whether its my new Parisian life, or just over-enthusiasm for pinterest fashion, my personal style has changed without me even trying.
I’ve always found myself being a leading member of the ‘jeans and jumper’ squad – mainly because I have a lot of trouble finding flattering clothes that suit my ‘not quite plus-size but not quite highstreet’ frame. My clothes tend to be boring and boxy and pretty average. I follow fashion but am not fashionable. Clothes shopping is my hell on earth. Shoes never fit my feet. I wear clothes because being naked isn’t the done thing.
So why, all of a sudden, am I feeling good about what I’m wearing?
When I packed for Paris I was faced with the challenge of packing everything I need into two and a hald suitcases, including towels, bedding, knives and mugs, etc. So, naturally, clothes had a tiny amount of set space and I had to be thrifty and horrendously minimal. At first this worried me, but I have come to truly appreciate what a capsule wardrobe can really do for you.
In the space of a week, my personal style has gone from non-existent to flourishing. I’m a happier, more confident person and my clothes, even though they’re the same, seem to fit better than ever before! I am not just wearing clothes but I am working them. I’m putting less effort into hiding myself and more into caring less and its working so well. In the mornings I sling on my one pair of black jeans, a t-shirt and a denim jacket, throw on some mascara and any pair of shoes and I am hot to trot.
In short, the Parisian lifestyle is clearly working well for me. The kind of ‘making an effort to look like you haven’t made an effort’ look isn’t actually that much effort at all.
I thought, with my new found confidence in my clothing, that I’d share a few of my little tips for finding something that works for you!
- Dress for comfort. Whether that means physical comfort or mental comfort, wear whatever makes you feel comfortable. Some people don’t feel comfortable in heels, others feel more confident. Wear what you could spend a full day in and not get annoyed (for me, this also included throwing out all my wired bras…)
- Take a look at your Pinterest trends. Everyone has a pin board for fashion, some have loads. I found myself pinning the same looks over and over until I realised that that was what I wanted for myself. If you love pinning pretty florals, think about wearing it yourself! My Pinterest is full of white tshirts and jackets and, slowly, my wardrobe has become that too.
- Don’t go crazy. Okay so you’ve worked out that the Harajuku lifestyle is the one for you. It’s the one you feel most comfortable in and the one you connect with most. Great. Don’t throw away all your Jack Wills just yet. By all means if it doesn’t fit or is full of holes then whatever, but take it slowly. Find yourself through experimentation and don’t jump directly from one thing to the next. Your style is not defined by one title and you should let it evolve continuously.
I’m finally happy wearing clothes and I really hope that, if you’re in the same boat as me, you can find that comfort too. Just relax and wear whatever makes you feel good. I personally will never ever buy a skirt for myself, but if skirts are your jam then hey, go for it! I’m a sucker for a good bralette but you might need/want a little more and that’s cool too.
I think that, in Paris, I have finally realised that fashion and clothes really aren’t the same. I enjoy wearing the clothes I wear and look better because of it. That’s all that matters.