Picking Myself Up

Picking Myself Up

[dropcap]F[/dropcap]or the past few months, everything has kinda been a bit of a mess. I’ve just been lost under a sea of essays, presentations, diss stuff, stress about the whole ‘I have nothing to do when I graduate’ thing, and everything else on top. I’ve put on hella weight, my skin has gone to shit, and my relationships with friends, etc., have suffered. As I say, it’s all been a bit of a mess.

I’m terrified about the whole graduating thing. I’m so scared that in any future planning, my life literally stops on July 1st, the day after I graduate. It’s like my calendar just stops there. It’s weird because I’m going to Canada for like three-ish weeks in July/August, so that’s kind of like a weird floating bubble just after I graduate, but I can’t even think about the fortnight or so in between.

So the plan at the moment is to maybe do a masters. I say maybe because I still haven’t got round to applying to Durham, and was rejected by Oxford about three weeks ago. At least I can finally call myself a true Durham, Oxbridge reject now. Living the dream. Not bitter at all. Definitely didn’t ruin the last night of term for me, or the lonely shop shift that I found myself opening the email on. Amazing. I’d like to thank my good friend Wine for getting me through that evening (and also my other friends). Lol remember when I didn’t drink?

So anyway, once I’ve applied for a fifth year at Durham (lol) and have heard back (I’m pretty confident tbh) then there’s the fun decision of whether or not I actually want to spend another year in teeny tiny Durham, studying witchcraft, with even fewer friends, while everyone gets on with their life.

Whatever. This post wasn’t actually going to be about what I should do next year.

It’s actually about what I’m doing right now.

Right now I’m finishing up my dissertation (‘Sex, Drugs, and the European Witch Craze’), living off microwave food because my accommodation has no oven, and binge watching Forensic Files on the reg. It’s pretty sweet being me.

Weirdly enough, I feel really good. I feel on track. I’ve been blogging a lot lately which is really nice – I’ve missed having a hobby, and time to do it. My eating has got a lot better and I’ve even lost some weight, and am a lot fitter. I don’t mind looking in the mirror, or at photos of myself as much as I did a few weeks ago. Generally, I’m feeling pretty good.

I’ve been so focused on being the best (being liked, being clever, being fun, being pretty, etc.) that I’ve really fallen short of being the best for me. I’ve been a wandering shell doing all the things I had to do and none of the things I wanted to do.

But I’m getting over that, and that’s pretty cool.

I just have to keep going, doing me, and getting on with that.


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  • I’m so glad you’re feeling a bit more on track. I can totally and completely understand your angst and stress at this time – the end of last term I was a right mess too, I was buried under work and deadlines and my health and well-being went truly out the window (Dissertation and Exams are still stressing me out but at least I’m being looked after at home, taking some of the responsibility off)

    I also really understand your fear of the future – I graduate this summer too and have no clue as to what I want to do!! All I know is I don’t want to do any of the jobs directly relating to my degree (which is scaring me a bit more, since I’ve really got no where to start!!) … but just think of how great it’ll feel to be free of uni workload this summer and Canada: I’m excited for you, it’s an amazing country!

    I’m glad you’re feeling better, and – speaking from a true hippocrit – try not to worry too much about after graduation, being a Durham graduate (let alone Masters-Durham Graduate) I’m sure you’ll have no trouble finding something!!

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  • dreamofadventures says:

    Just keep moving forward. I know how you feel, a few months ago I had a rough time in life and what kept me going was getting up in the morning and going on with my day even though I had zero interest getting out of bed. It’s great you are feeling better each day and glad to see you blogging more =o) Keep the positivity going xx


  • woodenwindowsills says:

    I’m glad its not all going to pot! The main question I’d Have to ask though is, are you doing a masters because you want to, and you believe it will better your chances to get your dream job? If so, fab! Do it, enjoy the chance to learn more for a year! Or are you just unsure as to what to do and it will fill another year without having to face real life? I had considered a masters a lot, chose to do an internship over the summer after I graduated, and somehow landed myself in such a good job, I’m still there now! All that extra debt and putting off the inevitable sometimes might not actually be worth it? Alice xxxx


  • Monika says:

    I agree that sometimes the future looks so scary. I am in the same situation right now. But yeah, just be brave! You got this! 🙂

  • Aimee Julia says:

    Graduating uni is both an amazing and terrifying time! It sounds like you have it slightly more planned out than most though 🙂 x http://www.aimeeraindropwrites.co.uk x

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