10 Tips For Living Alone.

10 Tips For Living Alone.

[dropcap]I[/dropcap]f you’ve been keeping up with n&b, you’ll know that my post on What I’ve Learnt From Living Alone went down an absolute storm. I got some awesome feedback from loads of you telling me just how much you can relate to it, and how much you love living alone too. A few people, however, related a little too well to all the loneliness that comes with, well, being alone.

So, I’m here to help. I’m here to share my top ten tips for living alone, just to help my fellow loners out a little.

These ten things have helped me through a hell of a lot of rainy evenings and long weekends.

  1. FIND A HOT DRINK THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. Okay so I know a lot of you like coffee. I don’t like coffee so I can’t really talk about it too much BUT, I’m not sure that coffee would work here. I guess it might work in the morning, or if you drink decaf, or whatever… Anyway, find a hot drink that warms your soul as well as your body. I’m a massive tea drinker and have both normal and decaff tea on hand at all times. When I’m feeling a little cold and lonely I pop the kettle on and bam, problem kinda solved.
  2. EXERCISE. Exercise always makes it onto these lists, doesn’t it? I’m the least sporty person in existence and even I recognise the good that a decent run does for me when I’m feeling down. It gets me out of the house, into some fresh air, and gets the endorphins pumping. It also helps you sleep better which is just what you need when the evenings feel long and lonely. Sleep solves all your problems.
  3. NETFLIX. I’m one of those awful people who always has TV on in the background. I prefer having TV on to music (although at the moment I’m still in a post-Mumford & Sons buzz…). Even if I have the window minimised, just the sound of voices is enough to keep the silence away. Perfect for having on the background while you take those all important insta shots of your tea and biscuits. N.B. I’ve been obsessed with audio books lately so if Netflix isn’t for you, try out an audio book or two!
  4. KEEP YOUR SPACE RELATIVELY TIDY. I’m not a messy person – not in a gross way anyway – but I’m not a tidy person either. Something I’ve learnt this year is that everything feel just a little bit better if you’re not wading through clutter to get to the other side of the room. Because I spend so much time at home, alone, it’s so important that my space is comfortable. Tidy minds and all that.
  5. FEED YOURSELF PROPERLY. The temptation when you live alone is just to eat a lot of quick food because there’s no one there to judge you and making dinner, eating it, and then washing it up is just so unappealing. I can tell you this for free: don’t. Make sure you’re eating properly. I went through a week of pot noodles and by the end I was so run down and exhausted that I could barely get to school in the morning. Look after your body, even if it’s a pain in the arse.
  6. FRESH FLOWERS. Every Sunday morning I head up to the Place Monge market to spend no more than 10€ on a bunch of flowers. It gets me up on a quiet Sunday and gets me out of the house, into sleepy Sunday Paris, and I get something pretty out of it too (and a fresh set of blog photo props…). I like having something alive with me in the flat. Flowers are perfect for brightening the place up and for keeping the air fresh and happy!
  7. ROUTINE. I can’t stress enough how important finding yourself a routine is for beating loneliness. I am awake by 8h every morning, rain or shine, school or no school. On Sundays I go to the market. On school days I do my makeup while I wait for the kettle to boil. I get dressed at 20 past the hour. I do my food shopping on a Monday afternoon on my way back from the Louvre. Keep your mind working and engaged in the important tasks, no matter how small. It’ll help.
  8. DON’T BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR HELP. For a long time I didn’t like people knowing that I was lonely. I lived in the most beautiful city in the world (maybe) and was living the dream. That doesn’t mean that I was happy though. I can remember a two-week period back in November where I didn’t leave the house for two weeks, but told everyone I had and that Paris was great. It was awful. I felt awful. It wasn’t until I realised that it wasn’t going to get better my way that I began to sort it out. I told people I was lonely and it immediately left me feeling less lonely. Don’t shut people out.
  9. LEAVE THE HOUSE OCCASIONALLY. SEE PEOPLE. Obviously for some of you this is easier said than done and that’s chill. We cool. I’m a raging introvert so I feel ya. What does help, however, is changing your surroundings once in a while. Meet a friend for coffee or a movie. Go for lunch or climb the Eiffel Tower (okay, maybe that example was a little too personal to me). Break up the time you actually spend at home and treat yourself to something delicious. You’ve earned it.
  10. ENJOY IT. Living alone is wonderful. No one is there pissing you off by not cleaning up after themselves, no one is making weird noises at 2am, no one expects you to sit and watch TV with them even though you have work to do. Living alone is a blessing in disguise. Lonely at times, I wouldn’t change it for all the tea in China.

Do you have any tips for living alone?
Do you like to have TV on in the background, or do you have to physically watch it?

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8 Comments

  1. 7th June 2016 / 11:50 am

    i love leaving alone! what i struggle the most is trying to eat healthy but that is my fault since i hate cooking.

    but baking could be a great solution. pamper yourself. read magazine. tidy up as you want and customize your walls as you want (i love sticking pieces of magazines or mainly photos on the walls!!)

    xx from Brighton
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  2. 7th June 2016 / 12:44 pm

    I am so bad at being alone sometimes =) Your tips are actually a very good list of suggestions! I especially like the tip about the hot drink: it is so true that your routine cup of coffee/tea is a great way to feel better!

    Aria

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  3. 7th June 2016 / 1:46 pm

    I don’t live on my own but I don’t go to uni and my mum works everyday so I basically am right? Things like flowers, going on a walk (often to get food) and hot chocolate always make my happy when I’m feeling a bit lonely! Absolutely loved this post Imii!

    Hannah at Hannah Venables / A CREATIVE LIFESTYLE BLOG

  4. 7th June 2016 / 3:24 pm

    These are all such good points! Especially eating right. I love the feeling of achievement after making myself a proper dinner. And the whole exercise thing, may be a drag but it definitely makes me feel better!
    I am the kind of person who has to watch TV and can’t just leave it on, unless it’s Friends because I already know basically every episode off by heart haha. I can leave YouTube videos on in the background though!xo

    sylvie-ah.blogspot.co.uk

  5. Aimée Julia Cottle
    8th June 2016 / 10:08 pm

    Ah this post makes me miss living alone! Haha. I’m a total tv on in the background kind of person, too! x http://www.aimeeraindropwrites.co.uk x

  6. Kate Drury
    9th June 2016 / 6:20 pm

    I hated living alone back when I stayed in my university house over summer for work but I just don’t think I was in the right mindset for it, I’m such a people person/extrovert not having any one there was a struggle and because I was struggling I didn’t leave the house much which made everything worse! On the days where I made myself go out and do jobs (like food shopping) or even just for a walk everything definitely felt better. xx

    Kate | katedruryy.co.uk

  7. Rozalyn
    24th June 2016 / 7:16 pm

    i really enjoy my own company but I’m not sure i could live on my own! id love to try it though, i feel like i would get stuck in a rut and never leave the house.
    glad you’ve found things that work for you though

    love, roz xx
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